Showing posts with label Truth. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Truth. Show all posts

Thursday, February 12, 2015

Don't Let the Truth Get in the Way of a Good Story: When Facts and Truth Matter

In June of 1995, my sisters Kathleen, Bridget, and I toured Ireland. I have many memories of that trip, but the recent media flap over NBC news broadcast journalist Bryan Williams reminded me of a saying I first heard our Irish bus driver say twenty years ago: “Don’t let the truth get in the way of a good story.”

Our bus driver/tour guide was a cheerful and funny man with a "gift of gab" I’ll call Tommy. To quote the TV show “Dragnet,” Tommy’s “name has been changed to protect the innocent.”

During our daily trips, Tommy shared some history of Ireland and entertained us with jokes and long-winded tales. And usually, after one of his far-fetched stories, someone would ask him: “Is that a true story?” 

He would grin and wink then say, “The Irish have a saying: Don’t let the truth get in the way of a good story.” 

After hearing some of his stories, one might conclude that Tommy not only kissed the Blarney Stone, he went back for seconds.

As he skillfully drove down busy highways and wended across narrow roads, stopping for flocks of sheep, which he called “Irish traffic jams,” he would break out into song and encourage everyone to sing along. When one of the tourists complimented him on his singing, he smiled widely and humbly bragged that his voice wasn’t as good as his cousin’s, who belonged to the Irish rock group, “The Cranberries.” 

After I returned to the USA, I shared his don’t-let-the-truth saying with several writing friends, some who often quote it and a few who claim it as their own.

I’ve also used Tommy’s principle in my own writing--my fiction writing that is. In fiction, it is all right to embellish and change details or facts to fit a story. That’s why it’s called fiction.

But in non-fiction, facts are important, and truth is the critical element.  

When I write personal essays, I try to remain as faithful to the truth as possible, or at least as I remember it. 

But memories can fade, especially over long periods of time. Was it sunny or overcast thirty day years ago? Was I wearing a blue dress or a red sweater? Using vivid details can color a story and make it stronger, but they aren’t as important as the essence of the essay--the universal truth I’m trying to convey. And while those details might be innocent mis-remembrances, they aren’t deliberate falsehoods, like the ones Bryan Williams told when he reported that the helicopter he was riding in was shot at by RPGs.

Using dialogue in personal essays is especially tricky. I’ve often tried to recall conversations verbatim. For example, I've asked myself: Is that exactly what my mom said when I told her my teacher died? If I can’t recall the exact words, I stay true to my memory of how I felt and what I believe she said. On occasion I'll ask one of my siblings to compare memories.


So, while I’ll continue to embellish and not let the truth get in the way of my fiction writing, for my non-fiction, while I might occasionally “change a name to protect the innocent,” I’ll follow the advice of Sergeant Joe Friday on “Dragnet” and do my best only to use “Just the facts, ma’am.”

Monday, March 21, 2011

Truth Be Told

Last week I shared four truths and one lie and invited my visitors to try to pick out the fib in the midst of the truth. I forgot that awhile back I posted about something that a few of you remembered and thereby guessed the big whopper among the truths.


So, here is a recap of what's true and what is not:


* Growing up, one of my best friends—whose last name was Graves—lived in a haunted mansion. True: Stella Graves was a friend and classmate at Holy Name Grade School and St. Alphonsus (Rock) High School in St. Louis. She and her family lived in the historic Bissell Mansion, a reportedly haunted house that overlooks the Mississippi River. Sleepovers at Stella's were always fun -- and never dull.



* While working at an unemployment office in Massachusetts, my long hair got stuck in a check-printing machine and the boss had to cut my hair to get my head out. Embarrassing but true. I literally almost got scalped, had I not had the presence of mind to push the stop button on the machine.



* Two boys I dated were killed in Vietnam—the classmate who took me to my eighth grade dance and my date for Senior Prom, who was buried for a time in the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. Incredibly sad and true. James Donnelly, a classmate at Holy Name, gave me my first corsage and took me on the eighth grade dance on the Admiral. Mike Blassie, my date for senior prom, attended the Air Force academy after graduation. He became a pilot and his plane was shot down in hostile fire. He was declared MIA then KIA. For a time his remains rested in the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier until they were identified through DNA testing. His remains were returned to St. Louis and buried in Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery in 1998.


* While working for the Dept of the Army I received an outstanding-intern-of-the-year award. My husband, my boss, two co-workers, and I were flown on our agency’s Commanding General’s jet to Arlington, VA, where the award was presented to me by an Assistant Secretary of the Army. True. I received the General Mark Clark Award for outstanding manpower and force management intern from General Clark's son, who at the time was an assistant secretary of the Army.


* One of my favorite snacks is a peanut butter sandwich and a cup of coffee. False. I've never eaten a peanut butter sandwich and only tried coffee once when I was 18. We grew up eating jelly sandwiches--guess we couldn't afford peanut butter with so many kids. And it's not that I don't like peanuts, which can be proven by waving a Reese's peanut butter cup in front of me.


There you have it. Thanks again to Sioux for giving me the award that got all this truth telling started.

Monday, March 14, 2011

I Cannot Tell A Lie ... Maybe

Thanks to my writer friend Sioux for bestowing on me this Memetastic award.

As a condition of receiving the award I have to tell four truths about myself, along with one made up, pure fictional, lie. I admit, it was a challenge.

In her blog post about me, Sue wrote that "still water runs deep." I've been told that about myself before, so I thought I would dig deep with my four truths--and one lie.

See if you can find the fib among the following:


* Growing up, one of my best friends—whose last name was Graves—lived in a haunted mansion.


* While working at an unemployment office in Massachusetts, my long hair got stuck in a check-printing machine and the boss had to cut my hair to get my head out.


* Two boys I dated were killed in Vietnam—the classmate who took me to my eighth grade dance and my date for Senior Prom, who was buried for a time in the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier.


* While working for the Dept of the Army I received an outstanding-intern-of-the-year award. My husband, my boss, two co-workers, and I were flown on our agency’s Commanding General’s jet to Arlington, VA, where the award was presented to me by an Assistant Secretary of the Army.


* One of my favorite snacks is a peanut butter sandwich and a cup of coffee.


Another condition is to share the award, so I would like to pass this award with the following bloggers:


Sally, over at Live and Learn with Sally, who is a frequent visitor and commenter on Donna's Book Pub. I love her inspirational posts.


Janet, who lives and writes in West Virginia. Her blog, Writing in the Blackberry Patch, has interesting posts and lovely photos that make me go ahhhh.

Betty Craker Henderson at Windy Ribbons. I've known Betty for several years. I was happy to read on her blog about her recent trip to Paris with her daughter.

Donna B. over at Mystical Journeys posts about her dad and family, her life, her hopes and dreams.

Melissa Ann Goodwin, Writer's blog has some timely posts for writers. Melissa lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Her recent post about writing a FICTION book proposal is very interesting.

I tried my best to visit my followers' blogs other blogs to make sure I haven't duplicated this award. If any of you have already received this award, please but be happy to know that more than one person thought you deserved it!

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